Showing posts with label curiosity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label curiosity. Show all posts

Thursday, 28 August 2025

Professional Mentoring Unpicked #1

I posted on Monday 25/08 about the key elements that underpinned the, for me,
most up to date and aligned description of modern professional mentoring available.  


These are: 
  • Experienced and Trusted 
  • Guidance, Support, and Encouragement 
  • Focus on Mentee's Development 
  • Skills, Knowledge, Career, and Personal Growth 
  • Trust, Open Communication, and Mutual Respect 
And I said I'd post about and unpick each of them to test them for myself and with you. This is the first of those posts. 

 Experienced and Trusted 

“Mentors aren't just anyone; they bring valuable experience and have earned trust through their expertise and integrity.” 

Let’s unpick this… 

“Mentors aren't just anyone”. 

But they could be. And more of us should be. 

We all develop and bring our accumulated knowledge, skills and experience, both personal and professional, into and alongside our work and career. The older we get, the more of each we develop and employ. 

As colleagues, managers, learners, our behaviour makes an impact, whether we are aware of it or not. Sometimes in a good way, sometimes not. 

But if we bring our full selves, behave with respect, openness, curiosity – and we deliver, and help others to develop, grow and deliver – then we are already mentors. You may be in that space already but just don’t know it yet. 

“They bring valuable experience and have earned trust through their expertise and integrity.” 

When I first announced I was starting my professional mentoring business, many in my network very kindly responded by amplifying and commenting on that post. 

Several endorsed the qualities they considered I would bring to the role of mentor and my client conversations and outcomes. They included “strategic insight, genuine care, perspective, calm guidance, executive-level mentor skills, depth of experience, humour and humanity, and wisdom. 

These accolades are not given lightly. 

They reflect years of graft, delivery and impact. They reflect years of learning, application and working with others in a consistent, open, honest and transparent manner. And thereby, trust has been earned. 

I’m already in conversation with several prospective and actual clients and I hope that they already feel that we are meeting in that respectful and impactive space. 

What's your thinking here? Anything missing? Any questions? Comments? I'd love to hear your views.

Next up, I'll unpick Key Element 2: Guidance, Support, and Encouragement 

In the meantime, if you think you, a colleague or friend would benefit from entering into such a professional mentoring relationship, feel free to contact me for a no-obligation exploratory chat.

Monday, 21 October 2019

Taking a Leaf

Photo by Nong Vang on Unsplash
I've just read Andrew Jacobs' (@AndrewJacobsLnD) latest blog A Week of Posts wherein he shares where and how he gets his inspiration for his daily blog posts.

He's a man of curiosity and enquiry, and he's capable of extrapolating ideas from different sources, conversations, podcasts, blog posts, work products, etc that resonate for him and that he can translate into short, impactive, professionally-related daily posts.

It's a skill I envy and am learning a lot from in terms of my own blog posting track record and forward planning.

So here's what I loved about his post today.

  • The content: Andrew's sources are many and varied. His skills lie in seeing something in them that he can use and relate to a professional audience. He doesn't over-think them. And it helps that he's also very articulate.

    My takeaway: KISS - Keep it simple, stupid!

  • That photograph! His title was "A Week of Posts". His illustration: A lovely photograph in Autumnal tones of a rural pathway meandering into the distance, and marked out by two rows of wooden posts. It was both visually arresting (it drew my attention to the his blog immediately) and it was a gently understated witty play on the word 'posts'. Genius!

    My takeaway: Visuals attract people to your content. Great visuals enhance it.

So, taking a leaf out of Andrew's book, this post is my own quick and dirty reflection on what I think good blog posting should look like, while I try to walk that talk better myself.

Monday, 13 May 2013

Just the Job!

As my children approach the end of another academic year -Tash, Yr2 at University and Sam starting his A Level exams at 6th Form College - and as Mandy has recently started another new job with a Law Firm in London, I've been reflecting on what getting, having, doing and keeping a job really feels like nowadays.



I've been with my current employer for 7½ years now, was with my previous employer for
8½ years, and the one before that for 2½ years.  Previously, Mandy and I were in business with another couple, running our own moderately successful IT Training company.

But neither of us ever intended to be doing those things.  We met at Christmas 1982, doing panto in Stafford.  We were actors.  That's what we had trained for, had been doing for years (but see below) and intended (hoped) to be doing for the rest of our lives.

If you have read any of my social media bios, you will no doubt have noticed the number of jobs I have had.  This was not from choice, but rather from the choice I made to be an actor.  In a professional career of some 12 years, I probably worked as an actor for about 4.  The rest of the time, I was 'resting', as they say (a crappier euphemism I have yet to see - I wasn't resting, I was bloody surviving!).  These other jobs were fill-in roles, just part of the deal when not acting, to ensure the rent was paid and that I could eat. 

But that's where my previous education, personal & learned capabilities and professional experience paid off.  I could type (SCE 'O' Grade in Audio Typing), so I temped in offices; I could drive (passed my driving test when I was 17), so I drove delivery vans and lorries; I could read and deliver a script, so I did some telesales work (lasted two weeks - hated it!).  Bottom line, I managed to keep the wolf from the door because I had some life skills and had learned some stuff along the way to enable me to develop further.  I took this to be the norm and it was at a time when jobs like that were many and available.

However, when Mandy and I (still actors) became a couple and later married, this situation was no longer tenable.  We both took on more structured, permanent roles, found ourselves working with what we now call 'information and learning technologies', but back then we called 'computers', 'word-processors', 'spreadsheets' and 'computer-based training' - and the rest, as they say, is history...

But the landscape's changed now.  I've been lucky to keep my jobs until I was ready to move on (except being made redundant once, 16 years ago), but  in the last two years Mandy's been made redundant once, had to leave her next position due to a clash of understanding about organisational culture and, most recently, her last contract was unexpectedly terminated early and at very short notice.  This is not a reflection on her skills or abilities, but the knife-edge, short-termist economics stalking the business world today. Many of our friends and colleagues have found themselves in the same situation and not always been lucky enough to find other work!

I'd suggest that NO-ONE can rely on a job for life any more.  It seems to me that no long-term career planning is  possible - that we are ALL actors, moving from one job to another, having to prove ourselves time and again to yet another numpty (I had another word lined up here, but good taste prevailed) and starting afresh with new colleagues, work practices, rules, values etc.  In itself, this is no bad thing - much learning and growing to be had and done - but it's the longueurs in between, often of several months or even years, while the coffers slowly empty and the debts begin to mount that really take their toll.

So, as the children (young adults) start to look at further education and career-wards beyond that, what lessons have we learned from this that we can share with them?  What challenges have they got ahead that are the same as - or are very different from - our challenges? What does the world of work look like for Graduates and young people today?

The UK Guardian newspaper reported only last week that a UN Agency, The International Labour Office International Labour Organisation said that young people across the world continue to be almost three times more likely than adults to be unemployed. There are 979,000 unemployed 16 to 24-year-olds in the UK, after a 20,000 rise in the three months to February The Guardian 

How can we help prepare our young people to survive in this environment? 

I'd suggest that there are some essential 'life' skills required nowadays, over and above the academic. When I needed them, I relied on my communication skills, my typing skills and the fact that I could drive to keep me in work. Today, I would add to/change those skills, thus: articulacy and good verbal/conversational skills (a key differentiator in my opinion), good written and digital communication skills, driving, curiosity, flexibility, tenacity - and patience.  All these to underpin any other skills they may have or develop.

I'd love to grow that list to pass it on to our young people, maybe with some resource links to assist them.  What other essential skills would you suggest to enable them to enter the world of work with the best fighting chance?